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Arizona Attacks Planned Parenthood via Taxes
Gerri Santoro died from a botched home abortion procedure
Arizona recently passed HB 2384 which no longer qualifies donations to Planned Parenthood as receiving tax credit under the Working Poor Charitable Tax Credit.
Despite the fact that under previous laws, funding form the federal government for abortion is prohibited anyways (private donations towards abortion are accepted), now the GOP has attacked citizen’s generosity and concern for their fellow human beings. Despite what Jon Kyl may or may not have intended as a factual statement, Planned Parenthood provides a myriad of services for both men and women of all ages and classes (although I hearWalgreens is now providing pap smears and mammograms).
Let’s be honest: people (either consensually or forced) have sex. And sometimes women (planned or unplanned) get pregnant from it. And sometimes they decided that carrying a pregnancy to term is simply not a possibility (PS, the majority [60%] of women who get abortions already have children (source available upon request)). So we as a society can either provide them a supportive environment to undergo a safe medical procedure or allow them to carry it out at home with coat hangers, electric cords, purchased surgical equipment, illicit medications, or self harm to the body.
Every anti-abortion bill, law, and supporter is not only responsible for what happened to Gerri Santoro, but will continue to have the blood of all of those who suffer severe injury or death by self-abortion on their hands. To deny women health care is to perpetuate acts of violence upon them.
Go forth and hate.
And oh yeah, images within this post may be disturbing to some. DEAL WITH REALITY.
Abstience Panties and the Ultimate Hypocrisy
Note, this is not an acutal product from wwymd.com, but its infinitely funnier.
So lately there has been some hype concerning wwymd.com’s (I’m not going to link them because they’re twats) line of underwear concerning abstinence. Their catch phrase: “What would your mother do?” is filled with contridicitons. Clearly, your mother would fuck. She’s reproduced, therefore, she’s had sex.
Holy fuck. Did I just blow your mind?
So instead of teaching women to have healthy relationships with their own sexuality through discussion and communication on sexual pleasure, consent, agency, and realistic statistics concerning the benefits of waiting to delay sexual intercourse (such as having an informed understanding of sex tends to naturally lead to decisions to wait longer to engage in intercourse, which reduces number of partners, which reduces exposures to STDs [duh].)
But no, let’s continue to demonize women’s sexuality and slut shame, but make it cutesy and available in pastel colors. Maybe their ridiculously long, boy short design should contain a little condom holding pocket.
Oh fine, here’s a link to their site:
What Would Your Mother Do?
Go forth and hate.
The Norwegian Menstruation Invasion
I have always assumed that Norway is a more progressive country than the United States. However, as the saying goes, ‘when you ASSUME you make an ASS out of U and ME.” It is apparently not unheard of for companies to monitor their employees bathroom use. For all of the U.S.’s classed, bass ackwards, old boys’ club ways of doing things, I can’t really think of a legitimate company (excluding the ones who hire [usually illegal] immigrants and abuse the shit out of them) that could get away with this without a giant media shit storm.
Some businesses have taken it a step further, and required that their employees to request electric key cards to gain access to the bathroom, sign a “visitors book”, and have even set up video surveillance outside of the restroom to catch unlawful pissers.
Possibly though, the greatest privacy violation though is what is happening to the female employees: they are now required to wear red bracelets to work when they menstruate to justify more frequent trips to the bathroom.
What the fuck.
While I have long since passed the point where I am embarrassed to buy tampons, in fact I parade around with them in front of me and watch people’s uncomfortable reactions, I still don’t want to be forced to announce it to the public. I am familiar with the experience of having to ask to go to the bathroom to attend to “personal matters” (I used to work at a resident treatment facility and do to the nature of the work, our clients could NEVER be unsupervised and my supervisor was a raging dick head more concerned with terrorizing kids than doing his job), but it’s one thing to request it on one-on-one and quite another to broadcast it with a bright red piece of string tied to your wrist like a kid in elementary school who’s lazy at arts and crafts.
I can understand a company’s want to cut down on wasting time in the bathroom, but there is a clear difference in behavior between someone who needs to piss or change a tampon with someone who is trying to “stick it to the man.” To punish everyone with such a disgusting and invasive privacy in 2010 is ridiculous and completely midevial. This practice labels women as “other” and is a complete violation of privacy.
What would you do if your work place required special identification for that time of the month?
The America’s Next Top Model Drinking Game
Some of you might have seen this over on Dr. Sangfroid’s blog, but this was actually a collaboration from way back before The Hating Expert and it seemed to good not to share.
Obviously you’ll need to be watching the show, but the rules go as follow:
Take one drink if:
-Tyra says something crazy
-Tyra says something about Tyra
-A girl calls another “bitch”
-A girl says the word “ghetto”
-Girl trips on the runway
-Tyra says to “smile with your eyes”
-Girl cries about how hard life is for her
-Miss Jay rolls his eyes back and gasps
-Accidental racist remark made by a white girl
-Janice (or any of her subsequent replacements, based on the season) makes a disgusted face
-The word “fierce” is said
-Someone claims “This is my dream!”
-A girl is criticized as being “too commercial”
Take two drinks if:
-Tyra says something about the “dark side of modeling” or the “ugly side of fashion”
-Previews show something crazy happening but it’s just a trick
-Girl mentions her baby at home
-Girl accidently comes out about her sexual orientation
-Miss Jay/Mr. Jay make awkward gay advances/flirting on straight men
-Girl starts a sentence with “In my country…”
-Girl tries to explain herself by repeating the same word over and over
-Girl says “I’m not here to make friends”
Finish drink if:
-Tyra fakes an injury/illness as a way of tricking the girls into learning something new (aspect of modeling, upcoming trip, impending photo shoot theme, etc.)
-Girl comes down with a mysterious illness before a major photo shoot.
Have fun drinking and hating!!
The Manifesto of Me
Sometimes I like to write things that don’t contain the words “dick” or “fuck.”
The Manifesto of Me
I learn. I grow.
I change. I break.
I put myself back together.
I reinvent. I create. I destroy.
I am choice. I am passion.
I am a force of nature.
I am flawed.
I am strong.
Nothing like me has ever been or will be again.
I am unique. I am vibrant. I am energy.
I hurt. I heal. I am wonder. I am mystery.
My soul is a song that cannot be understood.
I live.
I am.
Guest Post: An Ode To The Hating Expert
Guest Post written by: Lisa
We all have moments of weakness. It can be anything. It could be sitting there staring at a particular person’s number on your phone, thumb practically begging you to press the button that will instantly have you connected to the guy or gal you have been thinking about compulsively for the past few hours (Or let’s be honest here. Days? Weeks? Months?). And what about the other relationships? I’m not just talking about those break ups that have you obsessing about every other moment the two of you spent together.
This is a universal weak point. I know I’m not the only one who has in times of anger called her friend a hoebag, told her to take a hike, and ended up with a triumphant (if not a little smug) smile on my face. A bit later, though, the regret set in. Holy crap! What did I just do? We’ve been friends for years! Who will I call when I need to talk to someone? Who will I go to the movies with or tell stories to about my crazy parents?
Loneliness can get to the better of us. And yes, it’s not wrong to want to reconnect with people you have previously viewed as not worth the effort, but sometimes you have to pause and reflect. Why did you push his or her sorry ass to the curb in the first place? If you’re like me, with a high tolerance for other people’s bullshit, what event made you get to the point of bursting? Because no matter how many good times the two of you had, you are most likely better off without the excess of drama. Not only is it a waste of time, but it can be both mentally and physically hurtful if your previous comrade made you feel negatively about yourself. If you have released yourself from a bad relationship, intimate or otherwise, do not go crawling back into it because you miss having someone to pal around with.
There was a reason you freed yourself from the lowly dirtbag or manwhore or sleaze or _______ (insert insult of choice) to begin with. Keep these reasons in mind before you do something really bad, like letting him or her back into your life.
Go forth and hate (an activity you can do all by yourself!).
The Virgin Issue Part Two: Purity Balls
"Your vag is always on my mind, honey."
For Fathers:
I (Daughter’s Name)’s Father, choose before to God to war for my daughter’s purity. I acknowledge myself as the authority and protector of my daughter’s virginity, and pledge to be a man of integrity as I lead, guide, and pray over my daughter and her virginity – as the High Priest of my home.
For Virgins:
I (Name) pledge my purity to my father, my future/husband and my Creator. I recognize that virginity is my most precious gift to offer to my future husband. I will not engage in sexual activity of any kind before marriage but will keep my thought and my body pure as a very special present for the one I marry.
For Secondary Virgins:
I (Name) re–pledge my purity to my father, my future/husband and my Creator. I now recognize that virginity is my most precious gift to offer my future husband. I deeply regret and will never again engage in sexual activity of any kind before marriage but will keep my thought and my body pure as a very special present for the one I marry.
Is there anything creepier than the idea of a purity ball?
Answer: No.
Jesus Christ, just reading those pledges makes my skin crawl and my stomach churn.
Purity balls are just another way for parents to avoid educating their children about sex. But more importantly it’s a way to continue to shame women about sex starting at a young age. Daughter, see that thing between your legs? That’s right, you don’t. Don’t ever look at it, touch it, or wonder about it. It’s nothing of your concern and if you take an interest in you’re a dirty little slut.
Yes, in theory I understand how it’s suppose to teach young women that they should wait for a man who loves and respects them, wants to marry and start a family, as modeled by a loving father in a healthy, (preferably nuclear) family. Let’s ignore the fact that that by a father referring to himself as the ‘high priest of the family’ that he is oppressing the other members and that good Christian marriages end in divorce too. Plus, a father who is claiming his daughter’s virginity as something which he needs to protect, an outdated and debatable concept, clearly has no respect or trust in his daughter. Exactly how is this a positive role model for future relationships? Yeah, your beau will respect you, but he’ll still dictate major decisions to you regarding an extremely intimate area or your life.
And why is a girl only validated if a boyfriend respects her? What about respecting herself and making her own decisions regarding her body? And if a parent is going to “own” any piece of their child’s body, why is the father, who has no idea what the female experience is like? How is a girl supposed to respect herself if the “greatest gift” she can give is her virginity? Really? The most important part of a girl is the one used for sexin’ it up? Not her intelligence or her love, just an orifice where a dick, or other objects depending on your interests, can go. Oh yeah, that’s a great message to send to your daughters: your value lies in your vagina. But only once. After that, it’s all down hill.
If parents are so concerned about their children boning, they should just talk to them about it. Explain what sex means both physically and emotionally. Discuss how increasing the age at which you choose to have intercourse decreases your number of partners and therefore lessens your exposure to disease.
I’m in no way suggesting that kids should run around fucking each other, because kids are god damn stupid, but an informed young woman should be able to make her own decisions regarding her body. If her parents have empowered her from a young age that she, and only she, is in control of her body, then they are creating a stronger, more confident and productive member of society.
Purity balls have no point but to shame and devalue women based on concepts that were formed in a time where illness was caused by demons, rats materialized out of garbage, and it was acceptable to occasionally fuck a sheep. It’s time to move forward and teach girls that they are more than their virginity.
Go forth and hate.
Related The Hating Expert posts:
The Virgin Issue Part One: The Mythical Hymen
Safe Sexy Time Part One: Barrier Methods
As anyone with a drop of sense was aware would happen, the passage of Arizona’s SB1070 has caused quite the shit storm. People who are upset about the law are entitled to be so. However, it’s important to remember that it’s the law that is the issue, not the people who live there. Most Arizonans were completely unaware of the bill until shortly before it’s passage, had nothing to do with its drafting, and have protested it vehemently. So to claim that people in Arizona are racist is a completely ludicrous statement (almost as ridiculous as using Facebook groups as a major way to protest politics).
Fueling this stupidity are the cities who have decided to somehow “protest Arizona.” How do they plan to accomplish this? By no longer buying products from here? Okay. That seems feasible, despite the huge waste of time and money it would take to renegotiate these purchases from elsewhere. Or are they going to turn away visitors from such a “racist” state when they try to check in at hotels or make purchases? Is there anyone who would honestly turn down the chance to make a profit, especially during a time of economic difficulty? Unlikely.
To me, it seems like this ploy is nothing more than a way to attract potential tourists. “See how morally sound yet simultaneously progressive the city of Townsville is? Doesn’t this seem like a great a place to take the kids on vacation? Or even MOVE to?” FUCK YES CITY OF TOWNSVILLE, YOU BET I’LL PACK UP MY CROTCH PARASITES AND VISIT YOUR ILLUSTRIOUS COMMUNITY WHILE COMPLETELY OVERLOOKING YOUR OWN POLICIES REGARDING ILLEGALS.
And the celebrity protests? All I can manage is a simple who the fuck cares? Do you have a history of human rights involvement where a camera and/or reporter weren’t involved? Do you have a background in law, criminal justice, or the U.S.’s history of illegal immigration policy? Or is it simply that your star has been dimming, and you need some way to remind the public that you are somehow still relevant in an era when your greatest hits can be easily pirated and there’s no incentive to see your lackluster stage show?
So continue to protest Arizona all you want, but remember, you sound like an ignorant motherfucker who makes sweeping generalizations about 6,595,778 people.
Go forth and hate (the law, not the people).
Related links:
Protests Against the Arizona Immigration Law
Arizona Immigration Bill SB1070, A Drunk Review
The Fuck Buddy vs. The Friend With Benefits
As I’ve often said, relationships can be awesome, supportive, and full of love and personal growth.
Yeah, that does sound pretty gay.
Let’s face it, sometimes you just don’t want to be in a relationship. I, for example, do not have the time or energy to nurture anything significant. I work a high stress, full-(usually over) time job, go to school, and I have various other projects and interests that I’m developing. My spare time is spent in purely selfish pursuits, and it’s awesome. However, it’s important to remember one thing:
Single does not mean sexless.
Oh my god, did I just blow your mind?
Forget what you’re mothers have told you, ladies. It is quite possible and totally healthy to have sex and not be in love. While there’s always the good ol’ one night stand to satisfy your lusting, there are other slightly more long-term options for relationship-null sex.
The Fuck Buddy
First of all, let me simply say that in my humble and skewed opinion, fuck buddies are magical.
A fuck buddy can be a casual acquaintance through a friend, family member, work, school, etc. It’s someone who you know well enough that you can trust they wont’ be riddled in STDs but aren’t particularly close to. They usually have some flaw which prevents further developing a relationship, such as being ugly with the lights on, socially retarded, weird and foreign instead of exotic, or is just an asshole. Or you both simply aren’t looking for anything special.
Sex is usually mutually understood to mean nothing beyond that. Any interactions are almost guaranteed to end with bumping uglies. A fuck buddy is a good person to experiment with, as their opinion doesn’t really matter.
The Friend With Benefits
This is altogether a much more stickier situation and way less simple than the fuck buddy. A friend with benefits is usually someone, obviously, who you have an established friendship with. There’s a previous history of caring and concern, but there’s something preventing a full blown relationship between the two of you. It’s a lot more difficult to keep sex simple and emotion-free and it requires a lot more self awareness and control to maintain successfully.
A friend with benefits is a risky endeavor as it has the potential to end friendships altogether and sets the foundation for heartbreak if things start to get out of hand. Undertake with caution.
Just remember that whatever type of relationship you choose to pursue, be it coupled or non-committed, to always be safe and use protection (and keep in mind, the pill does not prevent STDs). Be honest with yourself and your partner, and enjoy yourself!
What’s your opinion on no-strings-attached sex?
Go forth and hate (while gettin’ busy).
Related The Hating Expert links:
Safe Sexy Time Part One: Barrier Methods
The Hating Expert 